Affirmations and Intentions

For the last few years, I’ve had a goal of writing a monthly blog. For the most part I’ve achieved that but there were times when I didn’t and times when it was written the day after it was due. I haven’t been perfect but when I set my intention, I told myself, I will write a monthly blog, and it will be published on the last Friday of the month. I didn’t say, I’ll do my best to write it. I didn’t say, I’ll try. I stated what I wanted as if it was already a fact, something that was not negotiable. I concentrated on believing myself and I didn’t feed any niggling doubts by voicing them or dwelling on them.

Which brings me to the point of this blog. Affirmations. Do they work? Have you tried saying any? To me, affirmations are like intentions. I will write a monthly blog is a statement of my intention as if there was no alternative, but it is also an affirmation in that it is positive reinforcement, a message to my adaptable and receptive brain that I can do it.

Our brains have the ability to change and adapt to different circumstances in our lives. This is called neuroplasticity. They can also confuse reality and imagination, which is why affirmations help. Regular repetition of affirmations coupled with the belief that they’re true, can turn those intentions into facts simply because we know our course, our direction is clear, and we’re far more likely to take action that brings about what we want. Of course, the action is the final step and without it, affirmations may help us feel better, but they won’t help us achieve our goals.

Avoiding self-sabotage is critical. Don’t dwell in doubt. Catch those negative thoughts and imagine throwing them out like weeds in a garden. Plant healthy, achievable, sturdy seeds and imagine them thriving. Believe it. Create the mental and emotional world you want to live in. Take action in line with your intentions and the affirmations you have in mind. Your world will be a much happier place.

I have a list of spiritual affirmations written a number of years ago when I needed them. I thought them up, wrote them, typed them (I’m a Word person) and printed them out. To be honest, I didn’t say them over and over, but I did process them, believe in them, and practise them. They obviously stuck in my head and in my heart because reading them now, I can say they’re still valid and the way I try to be every day.

So, affirmations are personal and how much you need to put into them is dependent on you and your circumstances. The science is there to say they help so why not give them a go? Write your list. Make your intentions clear. Repeat them and believe them as if they’re already achieved. No-one will be perfectly successful so when you’re not, just let it go. Infuse your life with positivity and watch how you grow.

Here’s my list. What’s on yours?

AFFIRMATIONSHow I want to be for the rest of my life.

I can steer the course of my life.

I am full of energy.

I am courageous.

Everything that happens is taking me one step closer to where I want to be.

My intentions are clear, and the Universe works with me to help me reach my goals.

I am brave and will realize my own great capacity.

I can and will write my story.

I will explore and discover.

Whatever happens, I can handle it.

I have a healthy assertiveness.

One step at a time is enough for me.

I reach out and invite others into my life.

I let go and I trust.

I am loving and generous and patient and non-judgemental.

I focus on my many blessings.

I know that I count and I act as if I do.

The quality of my life depends only on me.

I am drawing to me all good things.

I am powerful and I love it.

I am impeccable (honest and respectful) in my thought, word and deed.

Coping with Social Distancing

If you had asked me three months ago what social distancing was, I would have answered, when people spend more time communicating through technology than face to face. I would have added, when people use their devices while being with someone.

But social distancing today, in March 2020, in Australia, in the time of COVID-19, means staying physically separate from each other. It means not touching, not shaking hands, not hugging – acts normally that are normal in our society. It means going for a walk with a friend but staying one and a half metres away from them. It means waiting for takeaway in a space of four square metres and veering away from someone who passes us on the footpath. Abnormal behaviour.

I’ve noticed that this lack of closeness, so foreign it needs to be thought about, has turned to wariness. People aren’t smiling or even being polite when they pass each other; a sad side effect.

‘Non-essential services,’ a term meaning services that we can live without, have closed in order to reduce social contact further. People have lost jobs, livelihoods, security. Some people have lost the only social interaction they had in a day.

Social distancing today, the result of an attempt to curb a rampant flu virus, has major repercussions. Negative ones.

I worry that social distancing, in place to curb physical sickness and escalation of cases, will have a terrible effect on the mental state of many people.

Ironically, this is where technology will help. Instead of being the problem, we can now use it to solve the problem. If we have a working device, Wi-Fi, data, and the skill to use them, we can use them to talk, see, meet, watch, laugh, and devise ways to stay socially connected and to work. If we can’t interact face to face, flesh to flesh, then virtual interaction is the next best thing.

People are rallying. Alarmed and self-interested to begin with, people are now looking to work from home, to communicate, entertain, express, support and be supported. Life has slowed down, and in a positive direction, imagination has soared.

Gurus are talking to us about quarantine and meditation, Yoga instructors are running live sessions,  artists are teaching kids how to draw, all using technology and the internet, all Posting on Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, YouTube or other media. There is an abundance of choice in the ways we can connect.

Musicians, actors and comedians are turning old songs and skits into Covid-19 humour. Mothers at home, men with pets and small precocious children are becoming famous in a day, their clever creations turned into film and uploaded to the world who is lapping up the creativity and distraction. We are sharing these films, songs, pictures, motivationals and lessons, with each other.

This is our new social interaction; this is social-distancing – distanced but immediate, our new closeness.

‘Personal space,’ may be a whole lot bigger today than it used to be but through the vastness of cyber space, we don’t need to be distanced! Use it well. And smile! We will cope with the new norm and social distancing will pass.

 

Note: Having no internet or means to use it, is a problem in today’s world. Please be mindful that some people do not have access to this resource and do what you can to be thoughtful and kind within the safety guidelines. We need to care for those most affected by social distancing.

Social Distancing Information:

https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/Infectious/factsheets/Pages/social-distancing.aspx

https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help/topics/mental-health-and-wellbeing-during-the-coronavirus-covid-19-outbreak

Words of Wisdom:

On Facebook:

Shri Jasnath Asan (Yoga Science) – A quiet daily talk from Guruji at the ashram I was at in India, earlier this year.

https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=shri%20jasnath%20asan%20(yoga%20science)&epa=SEARCH_BOX

Eckhardt Tolle – author of Power of Now

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2744042518965586&external_log_id=793a80a87e475cd18b551878cd507d3a&q=eckhart%20tolle

On YouTube:

Russel Brand – Self Isolation and Mental Health

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C1sbp5oyVh4

Podcasts: many

Good for a Laugh:

Facebook, Instagram, Youtube: countless funny videos being shared on WhatsApp and Messenger

https://www.facebook.com/saved/?cref=28

https://www.facebook.com/starbrightangels.angels/videos/2781754881938912/

Chris Mann – American singer and songwriter – hilarious take off of My Sharona by the Knack called My Corona

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojrtwXqqc6g

Online Education:

Ayurveda and Nutrition Course at Prana by Dimple Jangda

https://www.instagram.com/pranabydimplejangda/

Online Yoga with Lilya Sabatier in India

https://mailchi.mp/ab7a376097d3/onlineyogawithlilya

Ekhardt Tolle – Spiritual Teacher

https://eckharttolle.com/free-resources/?utm_campaign=Message%20to%20Community%203-20-2020%20(JtXbyH)&utm_medium=email&utm_source=CC%20on%20all%20emails&_ke=eyJrbF9lbWFpbCI6ICJzaWJ5bGNAc291bmRzdHJ1ZS5jb20iLCAia2xfY29tcGFueV9pZCI6ICJOazd6WmIifQ%3D%3D&fbclid=IwAR0hH07Q1yPNPQIVs_9EZSFnefxltC31FSpyxc6DuGlxqWcXTVpOof9o7MY

Header Photo credit:

http://www.swinburne.edu.au/news/latest-news/2020/01/updates-on-coronavirus-.php

Social distancing includes simple, everyday actions that can contain the spread of COVID-19